My wife and I had just found out we were having twins. To say that was shocking is an understatement. Childcare? I wasn't even thinking about it. I was mainly thinking about how we were going to juggle sleepless nights, buying a house, working full time and still trying to maintain a generally normal life. Thank goodness my wife is an organizer. She did the research and then brought up hosting an au pair. My initial thought? I wasn't sold.
You mean a stranger is going to live in our house? With us? What's that going to be like? Will I still be able to watch football in the den on Sundays? Will I feel awkward grabbing a midnight snack in my kitchen? Can I not drink from the milk container anymore?
She's from another country? Like, does she speak English? Are we going to have to learn another language to communicate with her? I'm not a language person.
I harped a lot on the privacy issue. A 23-year-old woman was coming to live with us. Was this socially acceptable? I'm 32 years old, my wife is 30. Is the au pair going to hang with us and our friends? Will she be like a younger sister? Are we all millennials? Is it just like a roommate? I haven't lived with anyone other than my wife since college. Could I really be comfortable with this?
We made our pros and cons list and my fear of roommates didn't measure up to all the other benefits this person could provide. So, we did it. We got an au pair. It was, different. But I will say, having twins was different enough. My life completely changed the day those two little people were born, so having another person living with us seemed so minimal compared to what we'd just been through.
Let me tell you what I like about having an au pair as a host dad (saying that makes me feel old).
Joeseph is a host dad and father of twins living in the Dallas Ft Worth Area