What Is the Process for Matching With a US Host Family as an Au Pair?

The host family matching process typically takes 2 to 12 weeks after your application is approved and involves reviewing family profiles, conducting video interviews, and reaching a mutual agreement before visa sponsorship begins. AuPairCare facilitates every step as a U.S. Department of State-designated sponsor.

Matching is one of the most important parts of the au pair program. A strong match sets the foundation for a successful year of cultural exchange and childcare. Understanding how the process works helps you prepare, ask the right questions, and find a family that fits your experience and goals.

How Does the Au Pair-Host Family Matching Process Start?

Matching begins once you complete your application and are accepted into the AuPairCare program. You will need to meet all program qualifications and submit the required documents before your profile becomes visible to host families.

Once approved, here is what happens:

1. Your profile goes live. Host families browse au pair profiles that include your childcare experience, interests, a personal letter, and a video introduction.
2. Families express interest. When a family is interested, you receive their profile to review.
3. Video interviews. You and the family schedule one or more video calls to discuss expectations, daily routines, and household details.
4. Mutual match. Both you and the family confirm the match. Neither side is pressured to commit.
5. Placement confirmation. AuPairCare processes the match, and you move forward with J-1 visa sponsorship and travel planning.

What Do Host Families Look for in an Au Pair?

Host families evaluate candidates based on childcare experience, personality fit, and flexibility. They want someone who will integrate into their household and provide reliable, attentive care for their children.

Key factors families consider:

• Childcare hours. At least 200 hours of documented, non-family childcare experience is required under program and eligibility guidelines.
• Driving ability. Many families need an au pair who can drive. A valid license strengthens your profile.
• Language skills. Conversational English is required. Strong communication helps during interviews and daily life.
• Personal letter and video. These are often the first things families review. Be specific, genuine, and clear about your childcare philosophy.
• References. Strong letters from previous employers or childcare supervisors carry significant weight.

What Should You Expect During the Interview?

The video interview is a two-way conversation. Families will ask about your experience, and you should ask questions to determine whether the household is the right fit for you.

Families typically ask:

• Why do you want to be an au pair?
• Describe your childcare experience.
• How do you handle discipline?
• Are you comfortable driving?
• What are your hobbies?

You should ask:

• What does a typical weekday look like?
• What are the children's ages, routines, and needs?
• What are the house rules and expectations?
• Is there a car available for personal use?
• What does the local community look like?

Most families conduct one to three interviews before deciding. It is normal to interview with more than one family before finding the right match.

How Long Does Matching Take?

Matching timelines vary based on your profile, flexibility, and the time of year. Most au pairs match within 2 to 12 weeks after approval.

Factors that affect your timeline:

• Season. Families search most actively in spring and summer for fall arrivals.
• Flexibility. Au pairs open to different family sizes, locations, and start dates tend to match faster.
• Profile completeness. A polished profile with a strong video and detailed experience descriptions attracts more interest.
• Driving license. Candidates who can drive are in higher demand, particularly in suburban areas.

We at AuPairCare support you throughout the waiting period. Your placement coordinator provides feedback on your profile and helps you stay competitive. Review the full costs and benefits so you can discuss compensation and perks confidently during interviews.

Frequently Asked Questions

Can I choose which host family I match with?

Yes. Matching is always mutual. You will never be placed with a family without your full agreement.

What if a match does not work out after I arrive?

AuPairCare provides support for rematch situations. If you or your host family decide the placement is not working, your area director will help you find a new family.

Do I need to pay to match with a family?

There is no separate fee for matching. Program fees are outlined on the costs and benefits page.

How is my information protected during the process?

Your profile is only shared with screened host families within the AuPairCare program. Personal contact details are not released until a match is confirmed. The Student and Exchange Visitor Information System (SEVIS) manages your official program record.

Can I speak with a family's previous au pair?

Many families are happy to connect you with a former au pair. This is a good way to learn about the household firsthand.

Ready To Start Your Au Pair Journey?

The first step toward finding your host family is completing your application. Visit our apply page to get started, or learn more about what an au pair does and whether the program is right for you.